Q & A

Last updated: 13 February 2021 8:38am
Reason for update: To add more Q &A
One who updated: Bunny
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I shared that I have Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID), on twitter last night (24 Jan 21). Understandably, I got a lot of questions, so I thought I would do a blog post, to answer them all in one place, for people. 

Q.  Do you have different twitters for the different members of your system? Or would that be too complex?
A. No, we don't have different twitter accounts for everyone in our system. There are way too many in our system, to have this. It would get very confusing, too quickly. 

Q. How do will we know who we are talking to?
A. Take it as read, that you are talking to me, Bunny. If anyone else in our system has taken over, they will identity themselves. 

Q: If I was talking to someone, other than you, I would have known. Wouldn't I?
A: No, not necessarily. It is possible, you have interacted with someone else from our system, and not known. 

Q: Not really a question, but this makes sense! Sometimes, I have thought your tweets/replies were not really like you. But didn't want to say anything.
A: Yes, that would explain it, you were probably talking to another in our system.

Q. I was wondering if in your system, the body belongs to Bunny and she allows others  to use it/otherwise it when Bunny needs to go inside, or if the body is collectively owned by all of you.
A. The body, is not seen as belonging to me, Bunny, or anyone. The outside body, as what is seen, is just a vessel. Which is why it is called the body. I don't allow others to use the body, it happens when I go inside, and another fronts. 
We have rules in our system, regarding the body.  Other systems calls such things code of conduct or other wording, for our system, we call it rules. For example, do no harm to the body, do not get the body modified without the system's approval, as this is considered harming the body. 

Q. I'm guessing that everyone in your system isn't always active at once? My initial thoughts on reading you have more than 80 people was that it must be very tiring and noisy but I'm guessing everyone talking at once would be an equal irritant to everyone so some are quieter?
A. No, everyone is not active at once. Some like Meigh love to explore, but also sit in the rain. He finds it calming. A lot keep things ticking over, so to speak, in the background. To make sure our system runs smoothly. 

As a system we are sensory sensitive. So it is not noisy, though sometimes the Littles can get noisy, but that noise, we don't mind. Sometimes I can hear things going on inside, other times not. Not everyone talks at once either. 

For example at system meetings, you can only talk if you are holding the talking bear. Talking over others is not allowed, it is classed as being disrespectful in our system. And falls under not harming others in our rules.

Q. Are there ever disagreements? Like, do you ever have a person act outside of agreed system rules, or does everyone generally rub along?
A. Yes there are disagreements in our system. Think of our system, like a family. There are disagreements in a family. We don't have anyone who acts outside of the system rules, that would be considered harmful to the system. It is a hard no. It does not happen. If anyone has a problem with a rule, a system meeting is called. & then things are talked through. The system rules, are often reviewed. Our system is dynamic, like a family. 

The main rule in our system, is to keep everyone safe. Everyone is equal in our system (though there is a bit of a hierarchy, but everyone is still equal). 

Q. What is fronting?
A. I, Bunny am fronting, one who is in front. When someone else in our system has taken over, they are fronting. I am the Main Host in our system, so I am fronting the most.  Like the other day when Jester took over, he was fronting, when I was inside.

Q. The Littles and one of the Teens 'trauma holders'. Are these the ones that helped you through the tough times and there for are the trauma holders?
A. Trauma holders are ones who hold the trauma. So the trauma doesn't affect me, or rest of the system on a daily basis.  In systems, it is common for them to be Littles or Teens, or both.

Q. What do you mean by singlet?
A. Singlets means those of a single mind. As opposed to those of us who have systems. It's just a term that those of us with systems use, to differentiate between those of single minds, and those who have systems.